I’ve realized that there are some amusing little things A has been doing of late, mostly at the park:
- Trying to understand sharing: She has learnt to give and take. She has also learnt to help herself to other kids toys and play! However, she hasn’t fully gotten that to take a li’ll, you gotta give a li’ll. When she sees other kids playing with her toys, she goes around “collecting” them! I try to teach her to share (“one for her, one for you”) but looks like she hasn’t quite got the hang of it yet 😉 I have to admit it is interesting to watch the kids resolve these things amongst themselves.
- Trying to “socialize”: she loves “talking” to the other kids; squealing, waving, following. When she sees one of her cute little friends, she recognizes them and points. When she sees an older kid, I see her trying to imitate and follow. For a kid who had severe stranger anxiety around her first birthday, it is amazing to watch her take these strides!
Just wanted to record these so that I could look back on them someday in the future and smile 🙂
My toddler is 15 months old. She has been trying to assert her independence in various ways, such as not wanting to eat a particular food, or not wanting to do a particular activity. She is ready to interact, to express her emotions, and to make her opinion known.
Allowing her to make choices is a great way to accomplish all of the above. The key is to allow her to pick between two viable options so that she feels in control and learns to share her opinion. She chooses her snack in the evening (from options such as fruit, cheese, crackers – no unhealthy items in the options, at least until she has eaten her healthy snacks first), which book to read (from a stack of baby-friendly board books) and which toy to play with. I haven’t tried letting her pick her own clothes yet, but she has shown signs of being ready for that, too.
She learnt to love making choices! When shown her options for snacks, she would look eagerly back and forth, eyes gleaming in anticipation. She would then grin widely and reach out pointing at her choice. The “pointing” is very important in toddlers, it’s often one of the early forms of communication.
Recently, she took this one step further. She looked around, found her box of crackers, brought it over to me, and pointed, indicating that she wanted them! Needless to say, we were thrilled by this new step in communication. Can’t wait to see what’s next!